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" Seek the truth and run from

those who claim to have found it "

after André Gide

Wasting Your Sweetness

August 6th, 2012

A friend is taking the journey from this world and she is doing this consciously and with great courage and openness. Her family and all her friends are supporting her in this and she is making use of a wonderful project called ‘What Matters Now’ which allows everyone, wherever they are in the world, to keep up to date, to share messages, to contribute photos and films and so on. It’s a lovely way to stay in touch and still respect that person’s need for privacy, time and space. And it feels like all of us, as a community around her, are learning so much from this.

Just recently a friend posted this on the site. What a beautiful image that makes ‘wasting sweetness’ glorious in its generosity:

Life will break you. Nobody can protect you from that, and living alone won’t either, for solitude will also break you with its yearning. You have to love. You have to feel. It is the reason you are here on earth. You are here to risk your heart. You are here to be swallowed up. And when it happens that you are broken, or betrayed, or left, or hurt, or death brushes near, let yourself sit by an apple tree and listen to the apples falling all around you in heaps, wasting their sweetness. Tell yourself you tasted as many as you could.
– Louise Erdrich, The Painted Drum

Get motivated!

August 4th, 2012

If you’ve spent a lifetime convinced of the value of positive thought, and trying to ‘do the right thing’ in every situation, you’ll need a holiday every now and then to the ‘other side’. For such a refreshing experience of a completely different perspective I recommend some good books, some cartoons and the odd poster for your wall. Here’s the Resource Guide:


Charles Saatchi’s Be the Worst You can Be: Life’s Too Long for Patience & Virtue – often very silly but with some gems. Quick to read, it gives the feeling one has sat down with the devil in a cafe and fallen into conversation with him. He’s grumpy and cynical, but he’s also funny, refreshingly honest and sometimes insightful, as in ‘Experience is what you get when you didn’t get what you wanted’.

Chicken Poop for the Soul: Stories to Harden the Heart & Dampen the Spirit by David Fisher – a parody on the cheesey ‘Chicken Soup for the Soul’ series.

God is My Broker: A Monk-Tycoon Reveals the 7.5 Laws of Spiritual and Financial Growth by Brother Ty. A spoof based on Deepak Chopra’s and Antony Robbins’s work. I laughed so much when I read this I almost missed a plane.

How to be a Complete and Utter Failure in Life, Work and Everything by Steve McDermott. I haven’t read this, but it’s had good reviews.


I Have Abandoned my Search for the Truth and Am Now Looking for a Good Fantasy by Ashleigh Brilliant. See his website.


Go to for a full range of items. You can see one of their posters below and their website explains their uplifting philosophy:

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